“There Are Two Kinds Of People In The World”


Exhibit A.

We’ve all heard the phrase “There are two kinds of people in the world.” That’s the first part of a common saying, which is usually followed by the second part: two options that relate to whatever point the speaker wants to prove.

It can be deep and meaningful (“Those who follow the rules and those who make the rules”)…

It can be funny (and, if your on Tumblr, a bit serial-killer-y)…

two kinds of people

Two kinds of people, folks.

It can be oddly specific (“People who understand football, and Manchester United fans”)…

Or even downright meta (“Those who believe there are two kinds of people in the world and those who don’t”).

Then there’s “There are 10 kinds of people in the world: Those who understand binary and those who don’t.”

And so on and so forth.

But here’s the thing that everyone–everyone–forgets, and that is the third part of this line:

You get to choose which group you’re in.

Hell, I’d go so far as to say you get to choose if you stay in those two options or pick door number three, but that’s a post for another day.

So if you stumble across this:

tear you down build you up

And you think, “Oh god, which one am I? Am I the kind of person who tears others down??”

Or even, “Well. I know I certainly don’t build anyone up…”

You get to pick.

No part of your past has control over your present. If you’re going through life–a follower, a take-no-actioner, a sit-back-and-let-life-happener, and you realize that you don’t like that path…switch lanes.

Life is a series of choices. And everyone is going to tell you what to choose, or how to choose, but only you can actually make the decision.

"I can only show you the door. You're the one that has to walk through it." ~Morpheus, The Matrix

“I can only show you the door. You’re the one that has to walk through it.” ~Morpheus, The Matrix

There is nothing keeping you where you are but you. Your environment, upbringing, and past might have influence, but they do not have control. The people around you might be more this or less that, but they are not the captain of your ship.

We’re not taught to see the world this way, but the simple reality is that we are the only ones who ultimately make our choices. Everyone around you, all your life, has simply been showing you doors. They might make it sound like you have no choice, but it’s a trick. It’s a lie. The choice is yours. It always has been. And part of “waking up” is realizing this.

At the end of your life–and in every moment before then–you and you alone will have to bear the full burden of your choices. The only way to make sure this isn’t a burden is to make choices that align with who you aspire to be. That is the one and only path to happiness: Choices that are true to you. It might sound selfish, but it’s actually the most loving thing you can do. The only way for you to contribute positively to the world around you is to let that inner light shine.

So whatever kind of person you are, and whatever kind of person you want to be, just remember that the choice is yours, and no one can tell you which option (if any) is right or wrong for you.

Choose the path that calls to you.

And keep your own personal brand of crazy in-tact.

Stay classy, internet.

Stay classy, internet.


Millennials, Digital Natives, & The Unstoppable Human Spirit: Part II

Last post, I talked about what the “entrepreneurial spirit” means to me, and how it’s not just about owning a business. It’s so much more than that, and honestly, it’s so much cooler than just that.

See, I love entrepreneurs. I love the mindset, and the outlook. I think it’s a fantastic way to be, and I think the increase in entrepreneurial individuals in our world is the sign of a global shift, a change in awareness and a change in our direction as a species. A good one!

If you’ve resonated at all with what I’ve written here, it’s very possible you have an entrepreneurial spirit, even if yours is, as of yet, underdeveloped.

Here are some characteristics of entrepreneurs:

  • Easily bored by routine
  • Rebellious
  • Eager to learn (but completely unwilling to do tasks that don’t light them up)
  • Stubborn
  • Curious
  • Prone to depression, frustration, and emotional distress when feeling trapped and powerless
  • Wants to do things their own way (even if sometimes it’s harder)
  • Has a strong desire to contribute something meaningful to the world
  • Possesses a great sense of purpose (even if that purpose is completely unclear to them)
  • Incredibly creative in areas where they have interest
  • Often diagnosed with things like ADD or ADHD

(This is not to say that just because you’re moody and rebellious that you’re an entrepreneur. I dislike when people use high intellect or unique personalities to excuse rudeness or actual laziness—there are some genuinely lazy people who don’t contribute to the world, and that’s not where you want to be.)

Though I might or might not be guilty of this…

Though I might or might not be guilty of this…

It took me until I was in my twenties to realize that I was an entrepreneur, even though, when I looked back, it was painfully obvious that I’d always done things my own way.

Entrepreneurs want different things from life than most others. “Freedom” has a different definition for them, and they’ll brave all manner of unusual and uncomfortable circumstances to get what they want.

They’ll work incredibly hard on what they believe in.

They’ll go without things others wouldn’t dream of going without if it’s in service of their dreams.

They’ll make sacrifices that seem impossible to others, because they know what they want.

An entrepreneur who isn’t in touch with their passions and desires suffers. They can be morose, lost, and unfocused. This often looks like flakiness, lack of motivation, lack of goals, and general patheticness.

This was me for a few years. After college, I just kind of hung around for a while. Don’t get me wrong, I worked hard. I just felt like I was stuck in the mud, spinning my tires at full throttle, but going nowhere. I was working non-stop, but I found I had nothing to show for it, and I was quickly sinking into depression and a general disdain toward life.

I felt like this dog.

I felt like this dog.


I knew who and what I wanted to be, but getting there felt impossible. Even starting felt impossible. I’m a big picture person, so while I can see things from a detached perspective and keep my goal in sight, I also have a bad habit of becoming overwhelmed by everything I need to do. This can be paralyzing, and for a few years, I was. I let fear and doubt keep me frozen in place, not knowing how to even begin.

The good thing about that time was that, while I didn’t feel like I was moving forward, I was still trying things. I wrote books, I freelanced, I read and read and read, devouring everything I could about making money, or publishing, or spirituality and finding inner peace, or even things like inventing and law. I read and watched and learned everything I could find that struck a chord with that hollow place inside of me that was eating me alive.

And I hate to disappoint you, but I don’t have one of those stories where I had a big “AHA!” moment that fixed my whole life in one fell swoop. I certainly did have a lot of “aha!” and “Oooh, I GET IT!” moments over the years, and I continue to have them now, but those kinds of things don’t change your life alone. It’s everything together that alters the trajectory of your future.

I used to seek out those defining moments, those singular days that would stand as a turning point for my entire existence.

But the truth, for me, at least, is that life is just a collection of ordinary, run-of-the-mill Mondays and Tuesdays and Wednesdays and Thursdays, spiced up by a few Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays.

We have to take out the trash and clean the kitchen. We have to do laundry and finish assignments. We have to run errands and write emails, and it’s all awfully boring.

And we have to work really, really hard. A lot. Sometimes for a very, very long time with virtually no return on our overwhelming investment whatsoever.

We have to do all this, all this Normal Life and Dream Life stuff, all mixed together, while being told over and over by people on all sides, whether they live in our house or in our screens, that we can’t ever do it.

They tell us we can’t have what we want. We can’t be that person. We can’t do those things. We can’t change this life. We’re stuck. They’re stuck. Everyone’s stuck. They tell us to give up and live a Normal Life full time, and let the Dream Life be just that—a dream. They tell us that’s normal and healthy and right.

And the only real difference between the entrepreneurial spirit and the ordinary soul is this: The little voice, sometimes so quiet we can barely hear it, that whispers, “But I want this.”

It’s hard work, but it’s worth it. And for people with a dream, with a purpose, there’s really no other option.

There will be big moments, but they’re rarely game changers all on their own. Much more powerful and important are the millions upon millions of little moments. Little, ordinary moments, where you choose to be big and extraordinary. Start adding those up, and you’ll start to see some remarkable results.

Everyone has this potential in them, but not everyone listens to the little voice. Not everyone holds fast to those dreams. Most people let life steer them, rather than steering their lives.

And the truth is that it’s not actually harder or easier to do it one way or another. Life is hard, period. It’s just a matter of what kind of “difficult” you’re willing to put up with: Working hard to get what you want, or regretting your decisions and wishing you had more.

So if you know what you want, don’t ever let it go. I’m going to talk a lot more about this in the future, so stick around. There’s a lot to cover on this topic.

If you don’t know what you want, still stick around. One of the purposes of my life is to ensure that others find their passion, so I’m going to be talking a lot about that, too.

But more than anything, keep being you. You can improve you, and be the best you, but make sure that no matter what, you’re always you. As they say: Everyone else is taken.


So, would you classify yourself as an entrepreneurial spirit? You can be broke, businessless, and completely at a loss for what you want to do in life—that doesn’t mean you aren’t an entrepreneur!

Millennials, Digital Natives, & The Unstoppable Human Spirit: Part I

While it’s pretty clear that the world is nowhere near perfect, the fact of the matter is we’re basically living in the best time period in recorded history. Nostalgia aside, there has never been a time (that we know of) where there was so much possibility, and while that “possibility” might be “annihilation of the human race” it might also be “awesome good things that don’t end up blowing us all up.”


“Yay, we didn’t kill everyone!”

Even with all our faults and imperfections, we’re still more open-minded, accepting of others, compassionate, conscious of our actions, connected with life (human and otherwise), and motivated toward freedom than ever before.

I’m not talking a little improvement, either. We are light years ahead of where we were just a century ago. It’s amazing how drastically or cultural, societal, and personal beliefs and outlooks have changed over the last hundred years, even the last fifty years. Attitudes towards people of different races, cultures, religions, sexual orientations, and other personal distinctions is unrecognizable if you go back just a few decades. Most of us today can’t even comprehend the disdain for others based on what, to us, seems like completely irrelevant details.

There’s much, much more to do, yes, but I have to say that I’m pretty impressed by how far humanity has come. It gives me hope that we can make it so much further, and do so much better, probably within just a few more decades.

I’m discussing this today because we’re living in such interesting times right now. We’re connected to one another, able to share knowledge and insights instantaneously with people all around the world, and I want to talk about what that means, both for the individual and for humanity as a whole.

This is the era or the independent spirit.

This is the time of questions and wonderment.

This is the generation of the entrepreneur.

You might see the word “entrepreneur” and think, “Yeah, I’m no business owner.” But I am taking to you.

Being an entrepreneur is about so much more than owning a business. In fact, owing a business is actually just a side effect of entrepreneurship; it’s not the cause.

Because when you’re an entrepreneur, you HAVE to own your own business, or do your own thing, or work for yourself in some capacity. It’s a mindset. It’s a lifestyle. And it’s more common than ever in today’s world.

This shift, which to me is a wonderful blessing, is not being met with such enthusiasm elsewhere, though.

Many call the most recent generations “lazy” or “entitled”, and I’ll admit that these behaviours do run rampant in some people. However, I’ve noticed that “lazy” and “entitled” are often misattributed, slapped onto the wrong group, who simply get caught in the wake of the more disappointing members of their age group.

Because a lot of us are really smart. We’re hard workers. We’re passionate and driven and eager to contribute.

But…we’re not sure how.

I’m from the Millennial generation. Some of you probably are, too. A lot of you likely fall into the next group, which I like to call “Digital Natives” (I didn’t come up with that on my own—I got that term from my friend, Dawn Elyzabeth). The lines aren’t exactly perfectly defined, though this little graphic from Dawn’s site explains it pretty well:


Dawn is awesome. You should say hi.

These younger generations—preceded by the also-rebellious Gen X—are…well…a little different. We’re finding that a lot of us don’t belong behind desks, pushing paper and doing mindless busywork. We’ve seen the consequences of working at a job you hate to support a lifestyle you feel no desire for, and we’ve responded with a resounding, “HELL no.”

And the generations who came before us—and even a few of our own who believe in that method—the ones who built the world we’re currently living in, well, they dislike that. They want us to accept the way they think, but, well…

*heads off to blow something up*

We don’t.

So there’s friction. Our outlook makes no sense to them, so they respond by labeling it in a way that does make sense to them: They say that we’re lazy, entitled, self-obsessed, oversized children who were spoiled when we were young and elect to continue being spoiled as adults.

Now, before we go on, I want to clarify that there’s nothing wrong with wanting a desk job. Working in an office isn’t abject torture to some. To me, it is, but I’m fully aware that it’s quite enjoyable to others, and I don’t begrudge them that, nor do I judge them for their choices. The world is full of different kinds of people, and that’s not an accident. We need every type, so if you fall into the, “I like having a 9-5 job,” category, then enjoy it! It’s by no means an invalid way to live.

I ask only that people who fit comfortably with the more “accepted” life choices recognize that there is more than one way to be a mature, useful, productive, contributing member of society.

The entrepreneurial spirit has always existed. It’s an integral part of humanity, and while it’s gotten us into plenty of trouble in the past, it’s given us out greatest advancements. We owe or current lifestyle to entrepreneurs and their passion.

We’re seeing an influx of this tendency in the younger generations, in large part because it’s easier than ever to tap into that energy. Anyone can start a website, write a book, record an album, share their knowledge, or work on scientific breakthroughs from the comfort of their own homes.

To some, this is a problem. To me, it’s our greatest blessing.

And THAT is what I’m going to be talking about in my next post.

How to Get What You Want In Life

There are a lot of articles I could write in place of this one—how to get the guy/girl you want, how to make lots of money, how to get a great body, how to make people respect you more—and I will probably write variations of some or all of those in the future, but today, we’re keeping it simple: How to get what you want in life.

(Hey. I said “simple”, not “easy”.)

The reason I’m going so broad with this is that the procedure for getting what we want in life is pretty much the same, regardless of what the thing we’re after is.

OK, that’s not 100% true. The procedures will vary from thing to thing (Better body? Eat veggies and exercise! More money? Become an internationally famous pop star!).

You might be familiar with this celebrity.

It’s just that easy, right?

Whatever it is, the starting point is always the same.

So what is it, then? Courage? That’s definitely going to be necessary. Doing what you want to do takes a lot of guts, and you’ll have to be brave. But courage isn’t the main thing.

How about self-discipline? Certainly a powerful and necessary quality, but not enough on its own.

Creativity? Money? Support from family and friends? Good time-management skills?

All awesome, but none are the core of getting what you want.

The primary ingredient to getting anything you want is desire.

I’m not talking wishful thinking or daydreams. This isn’t about petty wants or little demands. This isn’t about fantasizing.

I’m talking about deep aches. I’m talking about the kind of desire that keeps you up at night. That wakes you up in the morning. That gets into your bones.

I’m talking about the desire that makes it hard to eat, sleep, or do anything else that isn’t related to getting what you want.

People can feel this way over a lot of things. We get like this when we’re in love, but we also feel it when we have a goal that’s so important that it becomes all-consuming.

Michael Jordan felt this way about basketball. J.K. Rowling felt this way about writing. Picaso felt this way about painting. Julia Childs felt this way about cooking.

It’s that thing you want so bad you can feel it burning inside you, clawing its way out.

And in the words of Steve Jobs:

“If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. And don’t settle…You’ll know it when you find it.”

The desire you’ll feel when you’re going after that thing—that thing that lights you up—is what will get you where you’re going.

If you have any doubts about the power of desire, do this little thought-experiment with me. If you’ve heard it before, this’ll just be a helpful reminder. If you haven’t, it’s interesting stuff. I first encountered this in The Power of Story by Jim Loehr (check it out, it’s good stuff).

Imagine you’re standing atop a skyscraper. Sixty stories up, right at the very edge.

Across about a 100 foot gap, there stands another skyscraper of the same height. Between the two is a narrow wooden plank.

On the opposite skyscraper, there’s one million dollars. You can have it; all you have to do is cross the wooden plank.

Is the promise of one million dollars enough to get you across? For most, it isn’t. One million dollars suddenly doesn’t seem that impressive when you’re facing a 600 foot drop.

What if we up the sum? Ten million? Fifty? One-hundred million?

A billion? Ten billion?

At what point is it enough money to get you to cross?

For most people, the sum has to get pretty ridiculously high before they’ll even consider the task. After all, what’s any sum of money worth if you’re a bloody smear on the pavement? Not much, and the vast majority of us would rather live another day than chance it.

Now, let’s mix things up. Same scenario, but there isn’t money on the other side of the plank this time: There’s the person you love most, and they’re in immediate danger. The only way to save their life is to cross the plank.

Would you cross it now?

When this exercise is done in person, the money doesn’t motivate even half the audience, no matter how high you make the sum. But when it’s a loved one in danger, every hand goes up. Everyone—everyone—can find the courage to act when something so important is on the line. We all access our inner Katniss.


The 600 foot fall isn’t less scary, and we’re not actually any braver than we were before, but the why has changed, and that makes all the difference.

Money is rarely a big enough motivator to actually get us moving. This is because money isn’t really a thing in and of itself—money is a concept that humans have invented to facilitate the exchange of goods.

In fact, a lot of things aren’t enough to get us moving. Our why has to be strong enough to make us turn off Netflix, get off the internet, quit playing video games, stop texting our friends, and work toward something meaningful. Today. And tomorrow. And the day after. And every day for months, years, decades, until you get what you want.

The thing is, when you find the right why, you don’t even feel all the work.

You’re courageous without force, and disciplined without thought. You put your energy toward your goal, because your desire to achieve it is so great, so intense, you don’t even think about it.

Think of it like drowning. When you’re drowning, you have one goal: Breathe. That’s it. You’re not worried about your favorite show, or sleeping in, or getting the last slice of pizza, or literally anything else. You want air.

I’m not saying this desire makes it all easy. It’ll be hard work, whatever you’re doing. There will be days you won’t want to, but the desire will keep you moving, even when it seems impossible.

When you know why you’re doing something, all the work is worth it.

This is how ordinary people find it in themselves to give their lives for a cause, or work tirelessly toward a goal, or devote themselves daily to a purpose.

Those people aren’t different from you or I, they just have their WHY so solidly in place.

And always remember this: When you have the right why, you’ll endure any how.

Perspectives: What Dressgate Can Teach Us About How We See The World

We’ve all seen the dress by now. A couple weeks ago, Dressgate took the internet by storm, as only ridiculous, nonsensical things with no real bearing on anything meaningful seem to be able to do.

I’m not knocking the internet here, by the way. I love all the madness on here–it’s a good time.

But seriously. We were (and in some cases, still are) debating the colors of a dress.


The source of all the trouble.

The thing is, I actually found this whole debate fascinating. A lot of people were getting into heated debates, while many others just seemed really upset about how stupid and pointless it was, but I kind of loved it. Here’s why:

We learn best by experience. Humans do a great job of internalizing things once we’ve actually lived them. Especially when they’re memorable. Memorable like, say…something silly and a ridiculous, maybe?  Yes, indeed.

And now, we’ve basically all lived a really clear, vivid, and kind of hilarious example of a simple principle that rules or lives:

We all perceive our own reality.

That’s it. That’s my resounding truth.

But isn’t this the perfect example of it? The dress is, technically, blue and black. But though filters, screen resolutions, eyesight, and other variables, we’ve all basically seen a different dress. It’s not just “white and gold” vs “blue and black”—there were claims of purple, brown, bronze, and arguments over what specific shade of blue it is.

There are as many ways to see this dress as there are people in the world.

We know that the dress gives off the wavelengths of blue and black, but that doesn’t change the fact that we see what we see.

But let’s not make the mistake of thinking that this kind of personalized viewpoint is limited to pictures on Instagram. This is happening every day, to everyone. CONSTANTLY.

This is why we fight, get our feelings hurt, resent one another, envy people, ridicule others, reject opinions, and get into stupid arguments with the people we love. Because they’re not seeing what we’re seeing. And we’re not seeing what they’re seeing. It’s so simple, we completely overlook it.

Duty Calls!


If you can internalize this one idea, it’ll completely change your life: Even the idea that another person is wrong is your perception of the situation, not the truth.

Truth is a tricky concept. It’s hard to get out of our own heads because we’ve never BEEN outside of our own heads. The entirety of our existence has been as ourselves—there’s really not much any of us can do about that, either. We’re all locked into our own viewpoint. It’s part of the human condition.

So just like or eyes, screens, and prior influences help determine how we see the dress, so too do things like our gender, race, family, culture, and a million other things impact how we see life.

What makes it more complicated is that, in life, there’s very rarely an actual “right” or “wrong” answer. Right and wrong themselves are ideas conjured up by other human beings, so the determination of what’s right or wrong is so subjective, it’s almost impossible to get everyone agreeing on one thing.

“…there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

– Shakespeare, Hamlet Act II, Scene II

I know this isn’t even a new concept for most people—it’s likely you’ve heard some variation of this before—it’s just that the dress made it so apparent. When I really started looking at the debate, I got so intrigued. Leave it to me to turn internet silliness into something philosophical.

Back to my point, though: What should we do with this knowledge? What kind of action should we take regarding the whole “everyone sees things in their own way” realization?

For now, nothing, really. At least, nothing overt and outward. It is enough, at the beginning, to simply recognize what’s going on, and do your best to respect others’ viewpoints. I say “do your best” because I know some viewpoints are almost impossible to stomach. How can we accept the viewpoints of rapists, or murderers, or racists, or terrorists?

We’re not going to. Not right now, anyway. That’s like, enlightened-monk-living-in-a-temple-meditating-sixteen-hours-a-day level Zen, and I’m definitely not there yet, so I’m not going to tell you that you have to be.

But look at the people in your life. Friends, family, teachers, bosses…see how they have conflicting viewpoints with you, and how maybe just understanding that they see a situation differently than you do can impact their outlook, and thus make them act in a way that seems, to you, strange.

The worst that can happen is you don’t quite get it yet, and things stay the same. You might just find yourself relating to the people in your life (who you already have to put up with, so why not make it easier on yourself?) in a healthier, happier, more peaceful way.

Here’s an example from my own life: My father is still very protective of me, and worries about me going out by myself or doing things on my own. This happens in his mind, despite years of me proving myself to be capable of going out and not dying, because he’s still stuck on me as a little girl. Someone who meets me today will see an adult woman who’s capable of all kinds of cool stuff. My dad, though? He’s still seeing toddler-Eve, not knowing how to safely cross a street.

Can this get a little tiring? Yeah, kind of. It used to bug me, but since I made a perspective-shift and started respecting his outlooks, as well as my own, I became a lot more understanding of, and thus less concerned with, his view of me.

How he sees me doesn’t determine who I am, I do. So I don’t let his worry get to me. I respect his concern, I recognize it as loving, I calmly acknowledge his fears in a way that will put his mind at ease, and then I get on with my day.

Is it always that simple? Hell no. Especially not at first. And there are still going to be some people who you’re probably better off just letting go of. But it’s a great start, and it can change your life for the better. If nothing else, it’s a fun little mental game to play with yourself when you encounter people who think differently from you.