We’ve all heard the phrase “There are two kinds of people in the world.” That’s the first part of a common saying, which is usually followed by the second part: two options that relate to whatever point the speaker wants to prove.
It can be deep and meaningful (“Those who follow the rules and those who make the rules”)…
It can be funny (and, if your on Tumblr, a bit serial-killer-y)…
It can be oddly specific (“People who understand football, and Manchester United fans”)…
Or even downright meta (“Those who believe there are two kinds of people in the world and those who don’t”).
Then there’s “There are 10 kinds of people in the world: Those who understand binary and those who don’t.”
And so on and so forth.
But here’s the thing that everyone–everyone–forgets, and that is the third part of this line:
You get to choose which group you’re in.
Hell, I’d go so far as to say you get to choose if you stay in those two options or pick door number three, but that’s a post for another day.
So if you stumble across this:
And you think, “Oh god, which one am I? Am I the kind of person who tears others down??”
Or even, “Well. I know I certainly don’t build anyone up…”
You get to pick.
No part of your past has control over your present. If you’re going through life–a follower, a take-no-actioner, a sit-back-and-let-life-happener, and you realize that you don’t like that path…switch lanes.
Life is a series of choices. And everyone is going to tell you what to choose, or how to choose, but only you can actually make the decision.
There is nothing keeping you where you are but you. Your environment, upbringing, and past might have influence, but they do not have control. The people around you might be more this or less that, but they are not the captain of your ship.
We’re not taught to see the world this way, but the simple reality is that we are the only ones who ultimately make our choices. Everyone around you, all your life, has simply been showing you doors. They might make it sound like you have no choice, but it’s a trick. It’s a lie. The choice is yours. It always has been. And part of “waking up” is realizing this.
At the end of your life–and in every moment before then–you and you alone will have to bear the full burden of your choices. The only way to make sure this isn’t a burden is to make choices that align with who you aspire to be. That is the one and only path to happiness: Choices that are true to you. It might sound selfish, but it’s actually the most loving thing you can do. The only way for you to contribute positively to the world around you is to let that inner light shine.
So whatever kind of person you are, and whatever kind of person you want to be, just remember that the choice is yours, and no one can tell you which option (if any) is right or wrong for you.
Choose the path that calls to you.
And keep your own personal brand of crazy in-tact.